The loving approach of a caring and responsible adult can be highly stressful for a traumatized child and they may react in ways that are baffling to the adult – lashing out or pushing away in a dramatic way. For some adults this rejection is not just baffling but it is also hurtful.  It can be hard to remember that the child is stressed and that they’ve been so badly hurt that their trust needs to be built ever so slowly – not unlike approaching a wounded wild animal. When we talk about Strengthening Attachment we are referring to how we help the caregivers and parents to build a secure attachment within the child and to counteract the years of insecure or disorganizing attachment experiences.